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As good self-esteem goes, treat both twins the same and they will not see the differences between them for the most part. I had the same chores as my identical twin sister w/out CP. I had to do the dishes just like her. My parents just gave me a stool to sit-down while I washed them. My parents made it very clear that we were different just like everyone else twins or not everyone has trouble doing different things. My differences were just easier to see. I hardly ever compared my self to my sister. Some times I would get frustrated but for the most part we she did not bring it up or make it harder for me. Many parents of twins will probably tell you its very different than with siblings. Twins grow up seeing each other every day so their differences become no big deal in a short amount of time. Don’t treat the twins differently if you can help it. Sure there are things you can’t help, but if you don’t draw attention to it neither will they.
My twin was very shy and hated talking to new people. My mom made every attempt to give my sister the chance to talk while motivating me to move. One time my mom was asking twin if she wanted a cookie and I answered for her. My mom placed the cookies on our little picnic table so I would have to go get them. Heather went and brought mine back for me. After many stories like this my parents and their friends called us walkie talkie. I have never compared myself to Twin but I have wished I did not have to have surgery or all the castings. Encourage the good stuff and let the little stuff go. Sisters will be sisters and will fight.